Dreamboys reveal their sexually aggressive fans treat them as ‘slabs of muscle’, grope them and yank their bits – as male dancer accuses Katy Perry of assault

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STANDING in the middle of a roaring crowd, a scantily-clad dancer is grabbed and fondled by members of the audience.

But this isn’t a seedy strip club full of men, it’s a Dreamboys show, where the people being groped are men – and the frenzied crowd are women. 

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Javier says women have licked the back of his neck while he’s been performing[/caption]

It’s the kind of behaviour that was highlighted this week by Josh Kloss, who alleged that nine years ago pop superstar Katy Perry had pulled at the waistband of his pants and underwear to expose his penis at a party. 

While the pop star has denied the allegations, his claim has sent shockwaves through the showbusiness world. 

His accusations have been dubbed #SheToo – as they’re a reversal of the #MeToo allegations which have dominated the music and film industry for the last eighteen months, sparked by a wave of sexual abuse allegations against disgraced movie mogul Harvey Weinstein.

While statistics show that most victims of sexual harassment and assault are women, Kloss’s claims have encouraged other men to come forward and talk about their experiences.

Here, three Dreamboys – male strippers who tour the country every Saturday night – reveal the shocking ways women have treated them.

Josh Kloss starred alongside Katy in the video for her song Teenage Dream
In the past, Javier – seen here at a hen party – has been scratches, groped and licked

‘They see me as a slab of muscle’

“If you put a large group of a single gender together and mix it with alcohol then things get tribal and raunchy very quickly – and that goes every bit as strongly to women as men,” says Dreamboy Javier Markham, 29, who has been stripping for five years.

“There isn’t a bit of my body that hasn’t been touched during my time stripping – things that a woman would slap a man for if they did it to them happen all the times: women grope your balls, or try and get hold of your penis.”

“On one occasion I had someone yank on my penis during a show, which was pretty painful and shocking. I’ve had girls lick the back of my neck, which is a weirdly intimate thing to do.

“Scratching is a big one too – a lot of girls have got these long nails which they dig into your back. Don’t get me wrong – I have never felt threatened. I’m a big guy and I can handle myself but sometimes it’s like they see you as a slab of muscle that nothing can hurt.’

Javier says women often throw themselves at him

‘She walked me round the floor like a dog’

Fellow Dreamboy Rob Singers, 30, agrees. A stripper for several years – his go-to outfit for ladies nights and on the Dreamboys is a SWAT team member   – he says that sometimes it seems that the female audience ‘forget you’re a human being.’

“At the end of a Dreamboys show I go round the crowd with nothing on. I will mess around with my penis – I’m not flicking it in their faces, it’s a tease – but I’ve had girls try and jump in front of it and stick it in their mouth,’ he says. ‘The first time I was pretty shocked but I’ve got used to it.’ 

Like Javier, Rob has also regularly been scratched, while early on in his stripping career he was left bleeding from his penis when a woman jumped on stage and grabbed his genitals. 

‘I had a flag wrapped round me and this woman jumped on to the stage, dragged the flag away then dug her claws into my penis and tried to walk me round the floor like a dog. I was actually bleeding,’ he says. ‘That was pretty bad. I had a girlfriend at the time and it was difficult explaining it to her too.’

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‘Women can be sexually aggressive too’

The sexual aggression of female audiences also extends to the way they talk to you, adds Javier. 

“It’s interesting because it’s a reversal of what happens in a club, when usually men are competing with other men for the attention of one beautiful girl,” he says. 

“When I strip at a ladies nights I am often the only man and you have all these women competing with each other for your attention.  I get them saying things to me like ‘I could take you outside and show you things you haven’t dreamed of,’” he says.

“Hen nights are pretty bad: I’ve had every kind of offer under the sun, from mother of the bride to the bride herself, the bridesmaids.

“I get given hotel room numbers, other times the women just come out with it straight: ‘let’s f*ck’.

“The one last night of freedom thing that people associate with stag dos is just as strong for women – it’s the person not the gender.”

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Javier says women can be sexually aggressive too[/caption]

‘One hen text me from her honeymoon and wanted sex’

Rob agrees that hen nights are ‘the worst by far’.

“They are often very sexually forward,” he says.

“About four months in to my first job as a stripper I had a show where there was a very beautiful hen and during the show she asked for my number and then asked me to come back to her hotel room. 

“I should have known better but I went back and it was only because her sister was there and talked sense into her that we didn’t have sex.

“But it didn’t stop her messaging me all the time from her honeymoon – and we met the minute she got back. It doesn’t reflect well on me either – but it gives you a flavour of the way women behave on these occasions whatever their circumstances.” 

Rob is keen to emphasise that he’s not asking for sympathy  – he loves his job and knew what he was letting himself in for.

But he admits there are times he has been left uncomfortable by the ‘hands-on’ nature of his female audiences. “You don’t go into this game if you’re a shrinking violet. The attention is great –  but the way you get manhandled sometimes it’s like you’re a commodity,” he says.

‘They put money in my boxers’

Kelvin Valentine,  a 25-year-old Dreamboy of a year and a half’s standing has also been jumped on, scratched and on occasions had alcohol thrown over him when he has descended from stage into the crowd.

He says women’s behaviour is worse at the end or beginning of the month ‘because it’s pay day.’

“I have had situations where women will refuse to let me leave their part of the audience, they are literally grabbing my arm,” he adds.

“I also get money thrown at me sometimes  – the girls will come close to the stage and throw down five or ten pound notes or try and stuff them in my boxer shorts. I don’t see it as bad behaviour though: when you are on stage they treat you like you’re a superhero or a celebrity and then when you are on their level they  don’t know how to handle it. I just laugh it off.”

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Kelvin Valentine often has to push girls off[/caption]

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He says women’s behaviour is worse at the end or beginning of the month when it’s pay day[/caption]

 


While the strippers may be sick of being ‘groped’ ‘manhandled’ and ‘treated like commodities’, they stress that the women never make them feel frightened or vulnerable – just a tad degraded. 

 “You’ve got to be thick-skinned to do what we do and basically if you’re not up for what it is then you’re not going to make it,” says Javier.

“I won’t lie – what man doesn’t want beautiful women screaming their name and offering sex? It’s the dream.

“At the same time there is a double standard there in the way that society sees strippers which can work for and against you. As men you get more freedom –  but not as much empathy if something goes wrong.”



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