DEAR DEIDRE: I HAVE been having sex with a guy who said he was going to marry me, but now he’s called it off.
We are both Asian. I am 26 and he is 31. He knew that if we got on I’d expect a marriage proposal. He said he was comfortable with that.
After a few weeks we started to have sex and it was amazing. He asked for my parents’ details and kept telling me his mum would call soon. He was a real charmer.
But she didn’t call. Six months went by and he started just seeing me for a quickie.
He said they had family issues, then that he couldn’t marry until his sisters are married.
Why can’t he speak to his family about me? Am I not good enough?
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DEIDRE SAYS: I don’t think it is anything to do with you not being good enough, but it is about him being immature and unreliable.
Maybe it’s better to have learned his real character this way than to have married him and been stuck with a selfish husband.
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